We can discuss anything now. Sex, politics, trauma, mental illness. But death remains untouchable. As a personal reality, the thing that will happen to you, and soon on any cosmic timescale, it stays behind glass. Becker argued in ‘The Denial of Death’ that this terror of mortality is the foundation of human civilization and human neurosis. Mortality awareness shapes everything from political attitudes to consumer behavior. We have built our entire culture on not looking at the one certainty we all share.
Dying moved from the family home to the hospital. A medical event managed by professionals, hidden from families and especially children. Embalming, cosmetic restoration, sealed caskets. An entire infrastructure designed to make death look like sleep. Awareness of death is so destabilizing that humans construct entire worldviews, religions, status systems, primarily to manage mortality terror. The denial runs civilization-deep.
Every civilization before ours maintained initiatory traditions where the candidate underwent simulated death. The Eleusinian Mysteries. Egyptian temple chambers. Masonic raising. The initiated returned knowing the territory. Death and birth are the same threshold crossed in opposite directions. The same axis, the same intensity, the same requirement for navigation. The bardo skills required at death are the same skills required for awakening while alive.
Die before you die, and you won’t die when you die. An engineering instruction from every tradition that studied the crossing. Practice the navigation while you still have a body to return to.
We eliminated initiation and then wondered why everyone is terrified of the one certainty they share.